We all know people who see life from the perspective that their glass is always half-full and not half-empty. Their perspective defaults to an upbeat way of looking at life. Are you drawn to people like this or do you see it as a “Pollyanna” approach that’s annoying and not realistic? Your perspective will determine how joyful you are in life. You can choose to moan about reality or take the route Lloyd Christmas (Jim Carrey) did in the classic film, Dumb and Dumber. It’s up to you. We … [Read more...]
Archives for February 2011
Are Your Feeling Out of Control?
We all have periods in our lives where it feels like we’re emotionally out of control. It’s as if our emotions are running the show and others are responsible for how they play out. We’re simply at the mercy of our emotions. We are their victim. If you recognize this happening in your life, try grounding your emotions. Being accountable for your own emotional reactivity is tricky business. What do you do when the emotions just seem to overwhelm you and you don’t want to be reactive? You … [Read more...]
Are Your Emotions Frozen?
Emotional reactivity in our selves and those around us has a cost. It limits our abilities to choose differently. When you begin making your needs a priority, this change can create reactivity in others. You’re no longer predictable emotionally and your new inner strength can be unsettling. When we are anxious about how others will react,we don’t pursue our needs because we’re afraid of getting their reactivity thrown at us. It’s just easier to keep pleasing others. This is especially true … [Read more...]